Francesca – 30
Hi Sex Academy, my name is Francesca, I have a problem with Luca, my boyfriend and I hope you can help me. Every time we make love it is a magic moment, there is always a lot of passion and understanding between us, only that after having finished everything vanishes, Luca transforms, all his attentions end abruptly, he always turns from other part and more often than not he falls asleep; I try in every way to get close, to hold it tight, I would like him to do the same with me, but it almost seems that I bother him, that all the love that was there before suddenly disappears, I feel frustrated by this situation, I believe that he is only interested in that, and you don’t feel real feelings for me. I would like to have your advice, and if a story like mine has already happened to you, thank you very much

Hi Francesca, thank you for writing us your story, obviously on the sentimental aspect I cannot pronounce myself, only you can know what your boyfriend feels about you, and if yours is a love story or a relationship based solely on sexual approach. That said, I can answer your question from a technical point of view; you must know that the sexual response in men and women is physiologically different, in fact in man immediately after reaching the highest point of the sexual response, that is orgasm, a refractory period begins, where there is a sudden libidinal lowering , a relaxation of the body and one enters a phase of rest, which can very easily lead to falling asleep; in this refractory period, any activity that can disturb the feeling of well-being and relaxation, creates discontent in the man; for this reason your boyfriend has this attitude towards you immediately after intercourse. This refractory period increases with age, a 20-year-old boy will have an active sexual response again after a few minutes unlike a 50-year-old man who will need more time. In women the sexual response after orgasm is completely different, in fact the refractory period can be minimal or not at all, for this reason a woman is able to have multiple consecutive orgasms, and if she were not so a woman needs that this phase is always accompanied slowly by cuddles and caresses. Unfortunately Francesca is not an isolated case, men should strive to accompany their partner to enjoy even the moments after orgasm, and women must accept the times of their partner, not confusing feelings with physiological aspects. I hope this explanation can help you later.

Fabio – Sex Academy